Sensibility is often associated with weakness … This weakness that would supposedly plunge us into the embarrassment of showing that we are moved, that we behave in compassion towards a situation or a person … This weakness which would mean a ‘supposed’ fragility, that would weaken rational thought in favour of emphatic feelings! … Rest assured: Sensibility as a source of weakness is only dogmatic!
We may be tempted to think that as long as we are perceived as ‘tough’, others admire us or fear us. In either case, this would be more comfortable or, at least, more reassuring than showing sensibility. As no one is perfectly ‘tough’, this is pure aberration! We do not live in a jungle where the ‘toughest’ prevail. We live in a world governed by emotions. The latter control our actions and feelings much more than we imagine. Any attempt to censor sensibility will be in vain! “Men who think they are tough are much more sensibile than those praised for their expansive sensibility. They are tough because their sensibility is true and makes them suffer”, says Benjamin Constant.
Sensibility includes not only the feelings we experience but also how we view our human nature and how this vision conditions our perception of the existence of beings and objects arround us.
Sensibility is a quality. The quality of being humanly yourself. It certainly reflect your ability to understand your emotions and activate them properly and spontaneously. It is also the consideration with which you treat and interact with others. Although the risk of deception and manipulation is associated with sensibility, it should not be confused with an excess of confidence and attachment. You can not be forced to trust, but you have the choice of being sensible and to know how to stop trusting when your emotions dictate it. Above all, you should recognize that sensibility is a finite resource and that you must use it intelligently. Indeed, “Those who waste their sensibility on everything do not have it anymore when it is necessary” (according to Milan Kundera).
Sensibility is a sign of undeniable personal and interpersonal leadership. Indeed, leadership does not stop at the qualities associated with clarity of vision, inspiration, motivation and leading from the front. It is also based on your sensibility as evidenced by your ability to understand the behavioural and emotional signs of your interlocutors and to ensure that your own actions are in accordance with your feelings towards those you manage and stakeholders. From then on, your sensibility will perfectly complement your ability to believe in your distinctive uniqueness * and your ability to be authentic in complete harmony!
By Farid Yandouz